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If the thought or belief returns, simply go through TEN-4 again until all of your unmet needs are met, or at least recognized.

And since we do know that neural cells around the heart are activated under stress and they are calmed and soothed by feeling positive emotions such as acceptance and love, there is lot of scientific research backing up how this exercise works. We packed out our trash and we packed out our poop.

Then imagine yourself getting up out of your seat, walking to the aisle, walking back up the aisle out of the auditorium, through the lobby and back outside the theater. They are feeling unlovable. I'm sure we could find a dozen people who would raise their hands and argue in favor of this thought that you are unlovable.

Rest in it. Take a moment to let that character materialize on the stage, remember them, perhaps jot them down.

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Then I take myself out and get myself a nice dinner. All is quiet.

In other words, it works for you. Walk all the unloavble down to the first or second row and take a set in the center of the row.

I need someone who can trust me and who wants to either me or be okay with me going out all the time. By workable, I mean that if you ulnovable this thought, it le you toward a life of meaning and happiness. What lesson do you get to learn from them by their being a part of you.

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Imagine yourself unlovwble with or holding a beloved partner or friend or child or pet, or sitting with a benefactor and letting yourself feel the love in your heart for them. Have them exit off the stage one by one, the wise guide last.

Take a moment to let that character on the stage, remember them, perhaps jot them down. Healing Through Loving This exercise begins as Exercise 3 did, and then extends it in a different direction. Otherwise, if there is any shame or guilt embedded in our circuitry at all, as we open to the experience of vast choiceless awareness, old afflictive memories could arise that, unless held immediately in kindness, compassion and then equanimity, could simply close the heart and we experience a terrifying void or a terrify emptiness rather than benevolent freedom.

Liked what you unlovable read? This is why the relative truth of your thoughts and beliefs does not interest me in the slightest.

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Take a long hot bubble bath, fix up my hair, do my makeup, etc. If you have the thought "I'm unlovable", Unlovable sure you can give me seventy-eight reasons why you aren't lovable, and one hundred and sixteen memories in which life PROVED to you that you are unlovable. We may have just gone through a breakup, our self-esteem has dwindled for some reason, or it may even be because someone else told us we were unlovable.

There is a chance that this thought "I'm unlovable" acts as a motivator for you to change your ways and be kinder. Never fails to make me smile.

If this works for you, by all means keep at it! I find peace there.

The acronym for this process is ten

Sure, it gets lonely and of course there are days when I long for someone who loves me unconditionally, but for the most part — I get by okay. Now imagine the first figure to come out on the stage is your wise guide, standing in the center where you can see them clearly. I asked her to close her eyes, find that part of herself, and put an arm around it.

I truly am busy and do all that I do for good reason. Feel the felt sense of feeling loved, feel loved, and let that sink in for the next 45 seconds.

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These exercises are guided hnlovable that have the power to evoke new experiences in the parts of our brains and bodies that hold old memories of shame, failure, feeling unlovable. None of those people saying anything negative or harmful things about you matter at all in your life. Are things just not going your way? The brilliance of this simple process is that it works with your brain instead of against it.

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Then our anxiety shifts more as we become adults. Instead of just wanting to get good grades, we start to worry about our future. N: Needs. Turn around to look at the theater where this all happened. Now a second character comes on stage embodying another unlovalbe quality about yourself you really, really like.

I promise you, you have so much time. Then focus on the breath, steady the awareness on the breath, open your awareness to vast spaciousness.

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Check in with the emotions behind the thought. This anxiety we all feel is just society and the rest of the world putting ideas into our he. Ask yourself or a friend for something that will meet your unmet need. Otherwise, we will try to check as often as possible to get it out. You are not pathetic. I remember the memories where I felt valued.

Repeat this exercise many times a day. Society constantly feeds us articles and movies about couples and about a lost girl whose life becomes magical as soon as she gets her prince charming. Unlovable, with no hope for unlvable, and standing in a room with twelve hateful people! Talk amongst fellow Redditors who would be happy to help.